Keeping Hope – A Short Film by Kushal Vaghani

Keeping Hope - A Short Film by Kushal Vaghani

Keeping Hope - A Short Film by Kushal Vaghani

Keeping Hope by Kushal Vaghani is a silent short showing how powerful emotional connections within a family can be. Simone is crying on her father’s deathbed along with her mum. Holding her father’s palm, she recollects her childhood memories and the emotional connection with her family. Suddenly death approaches the father and Simone tries to convince death not to take the father. However, death is not perturbed by Simone’s insistence. Simone then holds the hands of her father and mother, as they(family) did during the childhood, and this emotional human connection humbles death.

People Need People – A Poem by Benjamin Zephaniah

People Need People - A Poem by Benjamin Zephaniah, illustration by Phil Hankinson

People Need People - A Poem by Benjamin Zephaniah, illustration by Phil Hankinson

People need people,
To walk to
To talk to
To cry and rely on,
People will always need people.
To love and to miss
To hug and to kiss,
It’s useful to have other people.
To whom to moan
If you’re all alone,
It’s so hard to share
When no one is there.
There’s not much to do
When there’s no one but you.
People will always need people.

To please
To tease
To put you at ease,
People will always need people.
To make life appealing
And give life some meaning,
It’s useful to have other people.
It you need a change
To whom will you turn.
If you need a lesson
From whom will you learn.
If you need to play
You’ll know why I say
People will always need people.

As girlfriends
As boyfriends
From Bombay
To Ostend,
People will always need people-
To have friendly fights with
And share tasty bites with,
It’s useful to have other people.
People live in families
Gangs, posses and packs,
Its seems we need company
Before we relax,
So stop making enemies
And let’s face the facts,
People will always need people,
Yes
People will always need people.

–Benjamin Zephaniah

Poem by Benjamin Zephaniah, illustration by Phil Hankinson, direction and animation by Jonnie Lyle, production and development by Joanna Brown. Created by Goosepimple Productions.

The Laughter Epidemic: An Example of How Much We’re Connected and Affected by Others’ Emotions

The Laughter Epidemic

The Laughter Epidemic

Tanzania 1962: In a girls’ boarding school in Africa, three students suddenly started laughing uncontrollably. Six weeks later, more than half the school had been infected. The school was closed and people were sent back to their towns and villages. Ten days later, another curious thing happened: the laughter broke out again in a village over 55 miles away, where some of the students lived. 100s more were affected. Other outbreaks started over a wide area, until the epidemic peated out over six months. By then, over 1,000 people had been affected, though they all fully recovered.

 

So why did it happen?

 

Some villagers thought it was caused by radiation poisoning, and doctors were called in to investigate. Their findings: mass psychogenic illness.

 

Emotions of all kinds can spread quickly.

 

How you feel depends on how others feel.

 

In fact, even a friends’ friends’ friend can affect you.

 

We’re biologically hardwired to mimic people around us.

 

By copying others’ outward behavior, we also adopt their inner emotions: your friend feels happy. She smiles. So you smile, and you feel happier. Positive emotions like this can fuel an emotional stampede, which can often last longer than a stampede of negative emotions.

–Excerpt from the above video, “Laughter Epidemic.”

Image: "The three gigglers" by Alan Cleaver.

What Is Social Contagion? How the Spread of Obesity Is an Example of Social Contagion

What Is Social Contagion?

What Is Social Contagion?

Social contagion is the spread of thoughts, emotions, and behaviors from person to person and among larger groups as affected by shared information and mimicry.

Paul M. Kirsch, “The Influence of Social Contagion and Technology on Epidemic Non-Suicidal Self-Injury,” 2012.

 

The Spread of Obesity: An Example of Social Contagion

Social contagion actually may account for as much, or perhaps, even more of a person’s risk of obesity than genetic and other factors that have been previously studied.

Academic research shows that, at least in the American population, and maybe in the international population as well, that we are all connected to one another by six degrees of separation. Your friends’ friends’ friends’ friends’ friends’ friend, for example, is going to include just about everybody in the population. And what we find, remarkably in the study, is that although the average degree of separation between individuals is six, here your influence extends up to three degrees of separation. And so, halfway, pretty much half the distance into the social network, your health behavior is having an impact on other people.

–Dr. James Fowler in “Obesity and Social Networks – CBS.”

 

Mindless Eating – Explaining Obesity in Terms of Social Contagion

 

Image: "TransparencyCamp 2012 - #tcamp12 social network graph [1/2]" by justgrimes.

What Is Flow Experience? Can We Help Each Other Experience Flow More Often Than What Is Described Here?

What Is a Flow Experience? How Can We Help Each Other Achieve a Flow Experience More Often?

What Is a Flow Experience? How Can We Help Each Other Achieve a Flow Experience More Often?

When you are really involved in this completely engaging process of creating something new, you do not have enough attention left over to monitor how your body feels, or your problems at home.

You cannot feel even that you’re hungry or tired.

Your body disappears, your identity disappears from your consciousness, because you don’t have enough attention, like none of us do, to really do well something that requires a lot of concentration, and at the same time to feel that you exist.

So existence is temporarily suspended.

This automatic, spontaneous process that is being described can only happen to someone who is very well trained and who has developed technique. And it has become a kind of a truism in the study of creativity that you cannot be creating anything with less than 10 years of technical-knowledge immersion in a particular field.

Whether it is mathematics or music, it takes that long to be able to begin to change something in a way that it is better than what was there before. Now, when that happens, he says the music just flows out.

This is the flow experience, and it happens in different realms.

–Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi in the TED Talk “Flow, The Secret to Happiness.” All quotes in this post are from this TED talk, which can be viewed also at the bottom of this post.

 

Flow Experience for a Poet

For instance, a poet describes it in this form. This is by a student of mine who interviewed some of the leading writers and poets in the United States. And it describes the same effortless, spontaneous feeling that you get when you enter into this ecstatic state. This poet describes it as opening a door that floats in the sky — a very similar description to what Albert Einstein gave as to how he imagined the forces of relativity, when he was struggling with trying to understand how it worked.

 

Flow Experience for an Athlete

But it happens in other activities. For instance, this is another student of mine, Susan Jackson from Australia, who did work with some of the leading athletes in the world. And you see here in this description of an Olympic skater, the same essential description of the phenomenology of the inner state of the person. You don’t think; it goes automatically, if you merge yourself with the music, and so forth.

 

Flow Experience for CEOs

It happens also, actually, in the most recent book I wrote, called “Good Business,” where I interviewed some of the CEOs who had been nominated by their peers as being both very successful and very ethical, very socially responsible. You see that these people define success as something that helps others and at the same time makes you feel happy as you are working at it. And like all of these successful and responsible CEOs say, you can’t have just one of these things be successful if you want a meaningful and successful job. Anita Roddick is another one of these CEOs we interviewed. She is the founder of Body Shop, the natural cosmetics king. It’s kind of a passion that comes from doing the best and having flow while you’re working.

This is an interesting little quote from Masaru Ibuka, who was at that time starting out Sony without any money, without a product — they didn’t have a product, they didn’t have anything, but they had an idea. And the idea he had was to establish a place of work where engineers can feel the joy of technological innovation, be aware of their mission to society and work to their heart’s content. I couldn’t improve on this as a good example of how flow enters the workplace.

 

Flow Experience during Work

Now, when we do studies — we have, with other colleagues around the world, done over 8,000 interviews of people — from Dominican monks, to blind nuns, to Himalayan climbers, to Navajo shepherds — who enjoy their work. And regardless of the culture, regardless of education or whatever, there are these seven conditions that seem to be there when a person is in flow. There’s this focus that, once it becomes intense, leads to a sense of ecstasy, a sense of clarity: you know exactly what you want to do from one moment to the other; you get immediate feedback. You know that what you need to do is possible to do, even though difficult, and sense of time disappears, you forget yourself, you feel part of something larger. And once the conditions are present, what you are doing becomes worth doing for its own sake.

 

7 Conditions of Flow Experience

1. Completely involved in what you are doing – focused, concentrated.

2. A sense of ecstasy – of being outside everyday reality.

3. Great inner clarity – knowing what needs to be done, and how well you are doing.

4. Knowing that the activity is doable – that our skills are adequate to the task.

5. A sense of serenity – no worries about oneself, and a feeling of growing beyond the boundaries of the ego.

6. Timelessness – thoroughly focused on the present, hours seem to pass by in minutes.

7. Intrinsic motivation – whatever produces flow becomes it own reward.

 

What Do You Think?

What could help people have a flow experience regardless of their profession or skill?

Is there a common flow experience we could all help each other achieve, and thus experience this exalted state much more often, and not in connection to our profession or skills? If there is, how could we achieve that?

Please write your answers in the comments below!

 

Watch Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi – Flow, The Secret to Happiness [TED Talk] »

Image: "The Flow of Water" by "John T. Howard."

Four Quotes from the Four Horsemen Documentary to Inspire Support, Love, Assistance & Cooperation

Four Horsemen - Feature Documentary

Four Horsemen - Feature Documentary

1. We Can Be the Best Source of Support, Love, Assistance & Cooperation

In any species, in almost any animal, there is always the potential for huge conflict, because with any species, all members of that species have the same needs. So they might fight each other for food, shelter, nest sites, territory, sexual partners, all those kinds of things. But human beings have always had the other possibility. We have the possibility to be the best source of support, love, assistance and cooperation, much more so than any other animal… and so other people can be the best or the worst. You can be my worst rival, or my best source of support.

Four Horsemen – Feature Documentary – Official Version.” 1:07:27 – 1:08:10

2. What Really Makes Us Happy?

What’s really suffered is human relationships, family life, the things that really matter to us. In the end, the only thing that makes human beings happy isn’t money, it’s very clear that you only get marginal gains from wealth. What really makes us happy is other people. It’s our relationships with other people that are really being damaged by the last thirty years. We trust them less; we have less interaction with them; we bond less than ever before; we marry less and marriages are under more threat than ever before, and all the associations that represent permanent unconditional human affection are being eroded or damaged. That’s the real legacy of the last thirty years. In some sense, we’ve got to recover and rehumanize our lives, otherwise not only will they be nasty, brutish and short, but they’ll be lonely.

Phillip Blond, Director of ResPublica in “Four Horsemen – Feature Documentary – Official Version.” 1:10:08 – 1:11:05

3. Human Beings are Alive because they Seek Attachment & Because they’re Propelled by Affection

The West is coming to the realization that its human project is failing. The West was so convinced that if you push people to achieve as individuals, that accumulated achievement of individuals would make for a successful society. And what the West is now beginning to realize is that the individual achievement, without incorporating the vulnerable community, is a myth. The idea was, “Make your own life. Be individually aspiring, and then you’ll be individually achieving, and then you’ll be individually prosperous, and then you’ll be individually happy.” You end up doing that in a glass jar, and the glass jar has a limited height, and it’s encapsulating, and in the end, you die of lack of oxygen. Human beings are alive because they seek attachment, and because they’re propelled by affection. So the isolated achieving individual, in the end, implodes.

Camila Batmanghelidjh, Founder of Kids Company in “Four Horsemen – Feature Documentary – Official Version.”  1:11:06 – 1:12:21

4. Purpose in Life has to be Outside Yourself

In order to find a purpose in life, it has to be outside yourself. It matters not how you construct it outside yourself, as long as it is a positive value added to society pursued. But it has to be outside yourself. It can’t be yourself. If you’re pursuing yourself, you’re pursuing the abyss, as Nietzsche said, you’re going to wind up in the abyss.

Four Horsemen – Feature Documentary – Official Version.”  1:12:21 – 1:12:45

Watch ‘Four Horsemen – Feature Documentary’ Here »

Emerging Humanity

Emerging Humanity [Video]

Emerging Humanity [Video]

This video, METAPHORmosis, translates a message that was originally put forth by the author/public speaker/creative consultant, Norie Huddle, and further substantiated by the biologist and futurist, Elisabet Sahtouris. Using imagery, music and words it tells the story of a great shift in consciousness and reality that is occurring on planet earth. Following an example from the biological world, this video parallels the transformation that occurs in the metamorphosis from caterpillar to butterfly with the socio-eco-spiritual transformation that is occurring all over the world as we speak.

 

One Big Reason To Place New Emphasis On Your Connection With Others: Happiness Is Contagious

what happiness looks like

… when a person becomes happy, next door neighbors have a 34% increased chance of becoming happy. A friend living within one mile? A 25% increased chance. Siblings? 14%. And a spouse? An 8% chance.”

– ABC, Good Morning America (citing research by Professor’s James Fowler and Nicholas Christakis, which they write about in their book, Connected: The Surprising Power of Our Social Networks and How They Shape Our Lives

We studied a full social network and found that happiness spreads through it like a contagion. And so we really do think that happiness is contagious.”

– James Fowler

Image: “what happiness looks like” by AJC1 on Flickr.