Poem: Simple Truth

The truth is usually simple –
Why is it difficult to live?
If love is infinite to give,
Then why is unity unreal?
Why can’t we move beyond the words
And sharing on Facebook pages?
Why does this finite round world
Get packed in shopping square cages?
Hate, finger-pointing and spite
Rule over every good intention
Instead of change and self-correction,
We look for being “good” and right.
Is there sapience in us,
Or are we fear-driven primates?
We sing of peace, dream happy days,
While driving somebody bananas…
We’ve come a very lengthy way,
We’ve walked the round world TOGETHER,
We’ve played and learned from every game,
We outgrew our furs and feathers.
Now we are due to calculate
And draw some sapient conclusions:
To be recycled as primates
Or drop the “you ain’t me” illusion…

by Irene Rudnev

Connecting With Others: A Prescription For Overcoming Social, Cultural, And Economic Differences

Friends Greeting

We suspect — or at least we hope — that there are more and more things… where people have the opportunity to discover their commonality. These are things that can change the world, even if it’s by one person at a time.”

– Gregory Stebbins, President of Insight University

The Power Of Connection

In Stebbins’ article for the Huffington Post, “Connection: The Heart of Our Humanity,” he writes about the power of connection, how it has the ability to bridge social, cultural, and economic gaps:

I made friends and shared extremely touching experiences with them, [even though some] I barely talked to. I know not their personalities and everyday lives, but I know their core being. I also learned my core being; I saw myself in a way I have never seen before; full of love, laughter and beautiful qualities that I can appreciate in myself. Now I see myself as a person, someone to be loved and cared for, who deserves the respect I give everyone else. … Life … is an ebb and flow. [This program] taught me how to grow from the ebbs, remember the flows and to always continue to love myself, others and life.”

– A young woman, “who had just completed a 4-day program for teens from diverse social, cultural, and economic backgrounds.”

How Can You Know If You Are Placing Value In Connecting With Others?

To test out whether there is value for you in connecting with others… here’s a simple suggestion. Try it and see if you notice a difference.

Once a day, when you’re getting ready to text or email someone, call them and talk instead. Better yet, if it’s someone at work or someone close to where you are, go over and deliver your message in person. See if there’s a natural opening to make physical contact with them — a handshake or just a touch on the arm. See what it’s like to actually make a human connection.”

What Do You Think?

What are some ways to test your connection with others?

Image: “Friends Greeting” by Tobyotter on Flickr.

Our World Would Be Different If We Could See Inside Each Others Hearts

empathy

If you could stand in someone else’s shoes… Hear what they hear. See what they see. Feel what they feel. Would you treat them differently?”

– The Cleveland Clinic

What Do We Know About The Human Race?

Well, we know something very basic: we all share common desires for food, shelter, sex, family, honor, power, knowledge, and wealth.

And yet… we fundamentally lack the ability to, “Truly inhabit the shoes of another.”

But what if we could, somehow, “See life through another’s eyes?”

How would our world, and everyone’s world, change?

A World Where Each Sees & Feels What Others Feel

Imagine, for a moment, a world where:

  • Each sees themselves tied to everyone else.
  • A world where each realizes their common ambitions, together, seeing that the greatest profit can only be achieved through valuing the connection that they share.
  • A world where equality isn’t just a “word,” and hatred is something which everyone seeks to overcome, in order to arrive at that next, new, superior state.
  • Imagine a world of mutual responsibility.

What Do You Think?

How is a world, where everyone truly values what others see, think, and feel, formed?

Image: “Empathy” by Pierre Phaneuf on Flickr.

The Wisdom Of The Crowd – How We Are Smarter & Stronger Together

Waiting in the sun for giants.

In an election year, people might disagree about who makes the best candidate. But you don’t hear much argument on the merits of democracy: that millions of average people can together make a wise decision.”

– Neil deGrasse Tyson, astrophysicist.

What Is The Wisdom Of The Crowd?

According to Wikipedia, [which is itself an excellent example of the wisdom of the crowd]:

The wisdom of the crowd is the process of taking into account the collective opinion of a group of individuals rather than a single expert to answer a question. A large group’s aggregated answers to questions involving quantity estimation, general world knowledge, and spatial reasoning has generally been found to be as good as, and often better than, the answer given by any of the individuals within the group. An intuitive and often-cited explanation for this phenomenon is that there is idiosyncratic noise associated with each individual judgment, and taking the average over a large number of responses will go some way toward canceling the effect of this noise.”

The following video shows how the wisdom of the crowds has been implemented:

Can The Wisdom Of The Crowds Be Extended Past The Definition Provided Above?

I’ve been studying nature recently… starlings in the area around Edinburgh, in the moors of England… at night they come together and they create one of the most spectacular things in all of nature, and it’s called a murmuration… this thing has a function; it protects the birds. You can see on the right here, there is a predator being chased away by the collective power of the birds. Apparently this is a frightening thing if you are a predator of starlings. And, there’s leadership, but there’s no one leader.

Now is this some kind of fanciful analogy, or can we actually learn something from this?

.. this is a huge collaboration, it’s an openness, it’s a sharing of all kinds of information, not just about location and trajectory and danger and so on, but about food sources. And, there’s a real sense of interdependence, [that] the individual birds somehow understand that their interests are in the interest of the collective. Perhaps like we should understand that business can’t succeed in a world that’s failing.

Well, I look at this thing and I get a lot of hope. I think about the kids today in the Arab Spring and you see something like this that’s underway. And imagine, just consider this idea if you would, what if we could connect ourselves in this world through a vast network of air and glass? Could we go beyond just sharing information and knowledge, could we start to share our intelligence?

Could we create some kind of collective intelligence that goes beyond an individual or a group or a team, to create perhaps some kind of consciousness on a global basis? Well, if we could do this, we could attack some big problems in the world.

And I look at this thing and I, I don’t know, I get a lot of hope that maybe this smaller networked, open world that our kids inherit, might be a better one. And that this new age of networked intelligence can be an age of promise fulfilled and of peril unrequited. Let’s do this. Thank you.”

– Don Tapscott, business executive, author, consultant, and speaker specializing in business strategy.


Image: “Waiting in the sun for giants.” by Simon Harrod on Flickr.

Midway: A Film About Man’s Interconnection With The Albatross

Do we have the courage to face the realities of our time, and allow ourselves to feel deeply enough that it transforms us, and our future? Come with me on a journey through the eye of beauty, across an ocean of grief and beyond.”

– Chris Jordan, filmmaker of Midway

The currently-in-production film, Midway, according to its site,

… explores the plight of Laysan albatross plagued by the ingestion of our plastic trash. Both elegy and warning, the film explores the interconnectedness of species, with the albatross on Midway as a mirror of our humanity.”

Midway is scheduled to premiere in late 2013. Here is the trailer:

MIDWAY : trailer : a film by Chris Jordan from Midway on Vimeo.

Dear Son, How Was Your Day At School?

My dear son,
Did you & your friends learn about this at school today?

Did you learn that all kids have feelings just like you and that it is destructive to individually  compete against one another because you learn through that how to use everyone and thing throughout your life for the sake of your own benefit?

Did you learn and discuss that a third of the world’s population is dying from starvation, and that they don’t even have a glass of water to drink?

Did you learn & see examples of how to respect others’  opinions that are different from your own even if you don’t always agree on the same topic?

Did you learn that each and every one of you was born with a special talent?

Did you learn you how to perceive yourself & others objectively?

Did you learn about collective group creativity together?

Did you learn that there is more than one correct answer to a question?

Did you learn that your amazing capabilities  cannot be defined by a percentage rating on a piece of paper?

Did you learn that each and everyone of you has something special that only you can contribute in order to complete a balanced society?

Did you & your friends learn about this at school today?

 

Love,
Mom

What The Kids Are Saying: We R All One

we are all one

we are all one

Currently on our planet most people imagine themselves to be separate from each other, living in separate families or clans, gathered in separate neighborhoods or states, collected in separate nations or countries, further separate by race, skin color, religion, gender, political party, social class, and the list goes on. This could be called the state of the disunion because we believe that we are separate.”

As a result, we have been missing the mark in our attempts to create a world of peace, harmony, and happiness. The truth is, we are all one… we are seeing that this idea of separation is an illusion. Our belief in disunity is the cause of all dysfunction on our planet. Nothing that exists in the universe is separate from anything else.”

What we are saying is that the wisdom of oneness is not just a touchy feely, feel good, new age catchphrase anymore… it is a precise description of the nature of ultimate reality… we are deeply connected to all of life.”

We are on a magnificent journey from me to we.”

Image: “we are all one” by Jesslee Cuizon on Flickr.

Type Of Male Bird Shown To Cater To The Current Desire Of His Mate

she'd like an orange

she'd like an orange

Our results raise the possibility that these birds may be capable of ascribing desire to their mates—acknowledging an ‘internal life’ in others like that of their own.”

– Ljerka Ostojic, researcher and coauthor of, Evidence suggesting that desire-state attribution may govern food sharing in Eurasian jays

A group of researchers at Cambridge University have discovered that a male bird, the Eurasian jay, can apparently cater to the current desire of its mate if it is in a committed relationship. Science Daily recently reported the details of the study:

Researchers tested mated jays and separated males from females. The females were fed one particular larvae, either wax moth or mealworm — a treat for the birds, like chocolates — allowing the males to observe from an adjacent compartment through a transparent window.

Once the pairs were reintroduced and the option of both larvae was presented, the males would choose to feed their partner the other type of larvae, to which she hadn’t previously had access — a change in diet welcomed by the female.

Through different tests using variations on food and visual access to the females during feeding, the researchers show that the males needed to actually see the females eating enough of and become sated by one type of larvae — called ‘specific satiety’ — to know to offer them the other type once reunited.

This demonstrates that the males’ sharing pattern was not a response to their partner’s behaviour indicating her preference but a response to the change in her internal state.

… The researchers believe that this ability to respond to another’s internal state in a cooperative situation might be important for species living in long-term relationships. Food-sharing is an important courtship behaviour for the Jays — so the ability to determine which food is currently desired by his partner might increase the male’s value as a mate.”

Similarly, With Humans…

While this information is all well and good for female birds, female women might wish to know if there is a correlation between male birds and men. Ostojic says,

A comparison might be a man giving his wife chocolates. The giving and receiving of chocolates is an important ‘pair-bonding’ ritual — but, a man that makes sure he gives his wife the chocolates she currently really wants will improve his bond with her much more effectively — getting in the good books, and proving himself a better life partner.”

The Continuing Story of The Integral Kids—1. Bobby

Dusk at Farringdon - November 2010 - Lucky Shot

Dusk at Farringdon - November 2010 - Lucky Shot

[This is the first story in a series of stories titled, The Continuing Story of the Integral Kids. The Integral Kids don’t know for certain if you’ll like them or not (the stories, not the Integral Kids—who wouldn’t like them?) but think that if you don’t like them you’ll definitely have a greater appreciation for why you don’t after you’ve read them, as well as for all those other things you don’t much care for, do care for, and life in general with all of its grand mysteries and wonders.]

Integral: Necessary to make complete; essential or fundamental.

Kid(s): A child or young person.

You couldn’t make out distinct noises. Everything that gave off sound, even those things you wished you could isolate, that is—you would have wished you could isolate them if you knew those sounds were there—cause if you’d been aware of their presence your ears would have sent certain signals to your brain letting it know that those were the kinds of sounds that made life, life—all jumbled together to become one big whirling, twirling kaleidoscope.

To give you more of an indication of it, it was the kind of situation that if you were to shout in a fella’s ear real close up, and that fella didn’t see you do it, then he’d probably not even notice; meaning, you could get away with a whole lot of stuff if you happened to be a particular type of person who liked getting away with particular type stuff when the situation allowed for it—or as those particular type people would say with a wink—called for it.

This one kid though, Bobby, was a different kind of person altogether.

Well, he was six year old. That’s one. I’m not exactly sure when a kid starts being a person; but if I had to wager, I’d lay odds that he already was one. Anyway, he didn’t want to get away with anything. He wanted to grow up though. I suppose that’s something most kids think about. Although the funny thing is, they maybe don’t think about it as much as their genes, parents, and social environments do for them. Mostly they just think about having fun and not getting lost or trampled in the sea of legs.

The train station was packed because his mom, Bobby’s that is, was on her way home after having spent time in the sanitarium. It was a pretty common affair. In fact, everybody at the train station was waiting for their dads, moms, grandparents, and you name it really, to return home from the sanitarium. It was the kind of thing the State decided was pretty good for you to do every three to six months, depending on the types of thoughts you reported in your thought journal. Kids didn’t get the privilege of filling out thought journals. You had to be thirteen for that.

Bobby thought the sea of legs looked a bit ornery today so he gave a couple good tugs on the pair of pants being occupied by his dad’s legs. It was code for, “Pick me up.” Sitting on his Dad’s shoulders he was one of the biggest there. In fact, it was just him and the other kids sitting on shoulders who were the big ones now. They didn’t like to be up there. It wasn’t because they were scared of heights or anything, but because they were leaving their posts. It was because each kid considered himself an explorer in the sea of legs, or the garden of dress pants, or the land of belt buckles, or, well you get the idea—each kid’s got a different take on what it is. And so just go try telling him that it’s really the sea of legs [garden of dress pants] [land of belt buckles]!

They all nodded and gave each other sympathetic looks which seemed to say, “I know, but what could we do? The sea [garden] [land] was ornery.”

Bobby shrugged it off and got caught up in something else. It was the boarding area. He saw a bunch of people running to catch the train that was slowly leaving the station. There was one certain lady wearing a big floppy hat with a tulip shooting through it that really caught his attention. She was running full bore, all her body parts jiggling with each step she took, hoofing like mad to make the train, and yet everyone was passing her by; because she was what some nice people call a full figure lady and some other not so nice people call a fat lady.

Bobby didn’t know it yet, and even if he were a real person, and not just some six year old kid your narrator thought might be a person, he probably still wouldn’t have known, that what was about to go through his head would come to change his life forever.

One by one the late boarders shot past the lady not paying her any mind. She was slowing down now, gasping for air. She touched one of them before it was over, some real lanky fella who looked like he didn’t mind much showing up late to catch a train. Their eyes met. She looked at him desperately, like he could do it, he could save her. He could take her with his slender hand and they would make the train together! He brushed her aside.

Finally she raised her arms to signal, “Wait for me!” but the train’s wheels only moved faster now, and soon it was completely gone. She was the only one who hadn’t made the train before it completely left the station. But Bobby saw something different. He didn’t see that last bit, well he did, but only later, how the runner looking guy left her behind. What he saw was how the tulip hatted lady looked at the fella and how the fella looked at her with twinkles in his eyes, and then how the fella yelled out with a surprisingly deep voice for being so lanky, “Come on everybody!”

Then some big lumberjack with a red flannel shirt peeked his head out of the still relatively slowly moving train, and pointed down the tracks and off to the side where the lady and the runner looking fella were. Then suddenly a bunch of people shot off the train and ran down to where the lady and runner fella were. Well no, one ran down to where the lady and runner fella were, but the rest spread out along the distance that led from the lady and the runner fella all the way back to the train.

The lumber jack then nodded, still on the train, and grabbed the hand of the closest person not on the train, then that person grabbed the hand of the next closest person further from the train, and on and on until eventually that runner looking fella grabbed some guy’s hand, and with his other hand, grabbed the hand of the tulip hatted lady and smiled. Then they all walked and pulled together so that everyone, even the tulip hatted lady, got on the train in the nick of time, just before the train had sped up too much for anyone to catch it.

When they got back home Bobby’s mom told his dad and him that it was really nice that she’d had to go away again, and that they think they might have fixed the problem this time. She didn’t shake nearly as bad as she did the last time either Bobby thought, although her memory seemed to be a little funny. She went on quite a bit about how it was good to be small, and that ants have it the best, cause they don’t know too much, and they’re better off for it.

Later that night she came in Bobby’s room to tuck him in. He noticed now that the treatment took off a different patch of her hair from the last time. She was twitching a little bit too he noticed. She wanted to make sure that he remembered what she’d told him earlier, that it was good to be an ant. Bobby remembered what he’d thought about the tulip hatted lady and lanky fella and agreed.

“If we were all like ants then we’d all help each other,” he said. “Cause no one’s higher in an ant village Mom. They all pull together, huh?”

But she didn’t answer like he thought she would. Actually, she didn’t answer at all. She just got up real slow from the side of his bed with a real blank stare. He couldn’t tell for certain, but it seemed like she was trying to hide something. It seemed like she might be really scared.

“Mom—What’s wrong?”

“Go to bed now,” she said.

“ Aren’t you going to tell me about the kinds of thoughts I should have?”

She shuffled towards the door and flipped the light switch off.

“Not tonight.”

She turned the light off and Bobby couldn’t help but feel that something was wrong, something was very wrong—and he was right. In the morning it would all change. The State would come. Life would now be different forever. And somewhere amidst it all, the integral kids would come calling his name.

Image: “Dusk at Farringdon – November 2010 – Lucky Shot” by mwmbwls on Flickr.