3 Tips For Your Child To Build A Powerful Brain

The concern with very young children is that, as human beings we have a competitive advantage over the rest of the animal world by the virtue of the fact that we are born with, essentially, a fetal brain.

Our brain gets to develop in response to the environment in which it needs to function. So though we are helpless and completely dependent on our parents for survival at birth, we get to build an architecture that is most efficient for dealing with the world we live in.

What we know about that is that 3 things seem to be very important to building very powerful brains:

Bonding with other human beings: relating to mommy, interacting, developing relationships.
Manipulating the physical environment: stacking up blocks or getting a cheerio into your mouth.

Open-ended problem solving, creative type of plays: so a blank piece of paper and crayons, or a piece of clay, are very good.”

Michael Rich, MD, MPH, Director for the Center of Media and Child Health, in the video below in this post How Young Is Too Young To Watch Television? discusses the highly influential role of media – television, books, movies, video games and music – in children’s development, health and behavior.

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A Small Step for a Person, a Giant Step for Humanity

In order to reach balance with nature’s integrality, we have to start treating each other differently in all areas of our activity. Even if the change is slight, even if it’s only 1%, yet if it happens all over the world, it will bring about radical, enormous changes for the better.

In general, we underestimate small things. For example, over the last 50 years the world’s temperature increased by 0.1%, and look at what kind of changes this caused: the glaciers in Alaska and other places are melting, the ocean level has risen by several centimeters, and the climate is changing. And all this was caused by a mere change of 0.1% because it is happening in the whole world.

In the same way, a tiny change in every individual will be multiplied by seven billion souls who are all tightly interconnected with each other, a circumstance that was not present before. There is already universal closeness among us in some regards, and therefore this tiny movement will cause tremendous changes, transforming the world in an extraordinary way.

Since the current processes are happening on a very large scale, this small change in individuals will bring about many consequences in our lives. Under conditions of mutual influence, every person influences everyone else because we are all connected within a single network of thoughts, desires, plans, and so on. Scientists are proving this as well. As a result, our thoughts and desires are coming closer and becoming inter-included in one another.

This is creating a completely different territory and platform for humanity’s existence. Through it, we, the people, magnify our changes due to every person’s influence on everyone else. A small change in each person is multiplied by seven billion, while seven billion interconnected people influence every individual that much more powerfully.

 

 

A Glimpse Into The New World

One may ask, “How do we help to bring this new integrated world about, where everybody willingly accepts and joyfully follows the law of interdependence and mutual responsibility?”

It has to start with a motivation to study ourselves: what it means to be a complete human being, what the correct environment is, and how we can influence one another favorably – in a manner that is good for everyone.

To accomplish that, each of us must become a self-observing scientist, an analyst who studies him or herself as a unique contributor to the common happiness, and the society as a whole – as the most natural, nurturing element necessary for raising a wholesome human being. This requires that we first learn how to get along and co-exist with others and know how to prevent mindless, impulsive conflicts, fraught with total destruction.

The entire history of human development was propelled by the notion that some new social, political, or economic system would serve us better than the previous one. If that’s true, why are we still not living in the happy future, after we’ve tried all known paradigms? The answer is – they all failed. Hence, these days humanity finds itself at odds with what used to be the ultimate goal – pleasure. It simply became too hard to reach. Today, we are more apathetic than anxious, disillusioned than hopeful, drained of ambition and ideals.

Clearly, our next evolutionary state must be fundamentally different from the current one, which brings us hardly any satisfaction, but is replete with disappointment, frustration, and fatigue. We are no longer thrilled with this world. It has become so corrupt and saturated by our egos that by obeying them, we are placing ourselves and each other in great danger.

We are becoming increasingly aware that there is nothing in this world to build on. Marriage, friendship, work, government – these anchors of human life are shaken and have nearly collapsed, which prompts us to seek how to reform, rebuild them so as to make these essential social rudiments match the structure of the harmonious world we all desire. Therefore, as we evaluate our lives and count disappointments, let’s try to view it as a transition into the new life and opportunity to change.

This is a special time indeed, as we zoom down the road to a brand new world. The signs are getting clearer as we approach a future where we feel interconnected, equal, like one great family whose members are mutually responsible and therefore prosperous and happy.

It serves us to study the rules of the road – this new world’s laws – so we can transition from childhood to maturity smoothly and painlessly. Until now, we were evolving by Nature’s push, being programmed with new desires and forced to actualize them.

This is no longer the case. As we stare down the blind alley – the egoistic self – we must assess our next step with a new, altruist attitude: What is our next destination and how will we get there? Unlike our previous, instinctive behaviors in times of transition, today’s shift requires our conscious participation. Instead of being blind passengers rowing down the river of life, we must assume the driver’s seat in this evolutionary process.

For the first time in history, Nature is demanding that all of us, without exception achieve complete comprehension of who we are, the world we live in, and why we are in it to begin with. Our primary duty is to understand and know the essence of life, if we wish to be truly human.

Observing The Law Of Interdependence

For decades, leading scientists have been trying to explain to us Nature’s law of interdependence, which also includes us, humans. And because of that law, we cannot keep avoiding one another. On the contrary, our interdependence is constantly growing – moment to moment, day to day.

Historians and economists warn against nations adopting policies of protectionism and isolation in an effort to secure them from the harms of the global crisis by disconnecting themselves from one another.

These warnings are valid because they are based on thorough knowledge of history, which shows that such attempts oppose the trajectory of human development that dictates for us to seek each other’s company. So it has been since humanity’s dawn. Yet, our desire for isolation and independence, the culmination of our egoistic growth, has led us to the global crisis we are experiencing today.

This begs a question: Is it really to our benefit? After all, perhaps Nature is steering us toward a new and better life, while we, humankind, keep stomping our feet in a stubborn tantrum – we want what we want and we want it now, regardless of what it is going to cost. In other words, to know and ignore the truth about our collective predicament is similar to knowing and ignoring the laws of physics: being aware of gravity and still jumping off a roof leads to a predictable consequence – we’ll get hurt!

All our technological and scientific achievements, along with the theoretical and experiential knowledge we have accumulated over the course of history, had but one simple objective: to learn the laws of Nature so we could become its master and use it to our benefit.

To use the previous example with the law of gravity—not only have we learned to avoid its harmful aspect (falling down and getting hurt) but we also applied it to various areas of life: construction, transportation, and so on. Similarly, Nature’s laws can be applied to repair our relationships, the broken human connection between people, societies, and nations.

The deeper our knowledge of the laws of Nature, particularly laws pertaining to environment, society, individual and social psychology, the more correctly we can carry them out and quickly and efficiently fix the broken bonds tying us together. The only other option is to initiate a “divorce”, with all that it entails – a world war ending in millions of casualties.

Essentially, the crisis is overtaking the family we call humanity. But if we heal the connection between us, we will resolve all existing manifestations of the crisis. It is our duty to awaken everyone to the fact that we must consider everybody’s welfare, all seven billion of us, and in return, find a life of peace, security, and happiness. The bottom line is that we must take responsibility for one another just as in a family and healthy ecosystem.

 


The Need for Integrative Upbringing

The notion of upbringing is usually associated with children, but maybe it is time to reconsider this. Let’s look at some common problems plaguing adults today:

  • Loss of direction in life and inability to create a good and fulfilling life;
  • Inability to fulfill our desires, both for necessities and luxuries;
  • Unhappiness  due to inability to provide for the family;
  • Concern for our children, many of whom are acting worse each day and rebel against parental authority;
  • Acute pessimism, resulting in hopelessness and lack of self-confidence in ourselves, mistrust of those close to us and toward the entire world;
  • Drug and alcohol abuse to tune these thoughts down so as not to focus on them and make life tolerable.

These and other problems all point to one issue: We have not been well prepared to live in the world as it currently is. The approach that succeeded with our parents and grandparents is no longer working. Maybe it is time to consider re-education for adults.

Until recently, being a workaholic was almost honorable; it meant being a hard working, responsible person. But gradually, we forgot why we were working. We became “modern-day slaves,” and the chase after “more, bigger, and better” took over. We were brainwashed by pop culture imposed on us by mass media and companies whose sole interest is to sell as much of their products as possible. We were caught in the rat race of materialism and egoistic self-indulgence.

Even for those who are financially comfortable, there is no time to enjoy life due to the constant worry about tomorrow. It seems that the money making game—where we judge success by the number of toys we had—is over, and we don’t know what to do next. But when one has run out of options, one is ready to change.

We needn’t dread the changes that the world situation is forcing on us. These changes only remind us that each of us is a human being, not just some object to exploit! The crisis is here so that we finally change our lives. But first we must find the courage to face what we are dealing with today.

We need to make a list of our collective social flaws and discuss how we can correct them – by building a new, mutually responsible society, an environment that will change us so we can build a new, fulfilling life.

What will it take for us to achieve security, genuine well-being, build a happy family life, and provide proper upbringing and education for our children? What do we need to do so that everyone gets not just a job but also satisfaction in life, an atmosphere of hope and confidence?

For this, we need to change ourselves. Society is us, every one of us, and the relationships between us. Let us start changing them! How is that possible? A person’s only free choice, the only way one can change oneself and the society is through the influence of his or her environment.

 

 

Peaceful vs. Military

EBTV presents host Evita Ochel with special guest Paul K. Chappell – author, former military captain and leadership director for the Nuclear Age Peace Foundation. The interview covers major topics from Paul’s newly released book, Peaceful Revolution, including:

– Paul’s personal journey growing up in a military household
– Paul’s personal journey of being in the military
– proof that human beings are not naturally violent
– how propaganda creates an illusion of necessity for war
– the role of dehumanization to making war possible
– the repression of sex and its consequences
– the repression of death and its consequences
– our obsession with violent media
– examples of solutions for humanity to achieve world peace
– Paul’s wisdom and advice to those who want to enlist in the military

The Future Civilization: Separation or Integration?

Sylvie Brunel, writer, geographer, Liberation, France: “For five centuries, the world has lived under the domination of Europe, which imposed its ‘universal’ values, democracy, human rights, human equality, right to development. Today the world looks at the decline of the West and claims the right to rewrite history of subordination to the West. Through violence (colonization, slave trade), Europe has imposed its supposedly universal values to prove its supremacy, but begot only beggars and outcasts.

The homeless are beggars, single-parent families, all those who struggle to find their place in an individualistic and materialistic world. Outcasts are foreigners, old people, condemned to loneliness. What is civilization in which one finds his place only as if he is in the prime of life, physically attractive, fit, well off, and male?

Africans consider it unacceptable the way we treat the elderly. Muslims make fun of our criticism of polygamy, but our men make polygamy a norm de facto. Asians are stunned by how the individual can put greed above the interests of the group. There is more solidarity between slum dwellers than between developed states, drowning in bureaucracy. Inequality has exploded. The work has been devalued against the omnipotence of money and return on capital.

Barbarism is bursting from us when we fight against those who practice neither our language nor our religion, conduct ‘just’ wars, which cause only chaos and violence, wars for oil and access to the sources of energy in Africa. The West, sure of its success, is everywhere, with impunity trampling on the value of those people whom supposedly it came to civilize. How dare we say that one civilization is superior to others if it is built on arrogance, xenophobia, conquest, domination and exclusion?”

Western civilization, as the most egoistically advanced and developed, has conquered the whole world and imposed its own values. But the rest of the world is not a good example to follow. It is time for the development of a new civilization: universal and integrated, when all nations, while remaining in their own cultures, for the sake of survival unite above all the differences in order to be similar to Nature.

Born To Learn

Born to Learn is the first animation in a fascinating series aimed to provide easy-access to the exciting new discoveries constantly being made about how humans learn!

Ego: Playing an Altruistic Game

There is little point in discussing how each of us should change since everyone is shaped by one’s immediate environment—family, school, and society. If, however, we begin to act as if we are playing a fun game called “altruism,” it will become the most engaging game we have ever played, a life-changing one. It will be so much fun that we will gladly dedicate all our free time to building a good environment, founded on mutual responsibility. Our egos will gladly join the game because all the ego cares about is feeling good.

Indeed, it is easy to change when motivated by each other’s support. We need only agree to mutual responsibility. This is our “red carpet” to the future we all desire, a life of balance, peace, prosperity, and securityResponsibility is an ability to choose how we respond to our egoism, and at this stage in our individual and collective evolution, we are required to start using it to serve our common interest.

A question may arise: If it is so easy, why haven’t we done this before? The truth is that our egoism has been evolving, and until now, we couldn’t recognize its magnitude and how far it is willing to push us in pursuit of pleasure. We convinced ourselves that the ego helps us advance through competition and winning, and that it drives progress, both personal and collective. We did not regard it as destructive.

Yet, look at how we’ve grown apart. We are separated, alienated, and engrossed in self-entitlement. We never dreamed that this would lead us to the devastating destruction that we are witnessing today. Only now are we beginning to realize the treacherous path we have been treading, the perilous condition we are in. Therefore, now is the time to understand that the only way to reform ourselves is to build a new society.

Like an incubator or a greenhouse, this mutually responsible society can make us able and willing to rise above personal interests for the sake of common good. And the amazing part about it is that with everybody’s support and participation, even our egos will get their pleasures since society will value the unique input of each and everyone of us, for our unique contributions are both crucial and desired.

Imagine how incredible our future will be if all of humanity begins to apply egoism in positive, benevolent ways, so when a person connects with others, he or she will feel affinity and affection toward them, as if we are all family, or a single organism. We will be able to feel and understand every person and the entire world.

Once we begin this process, we will be able to experience humanity within us. We will realize that Nature has brought us to this remarkable stage in our evolution in order for us to feel that we are an integrated collective made of all and every one. When we can feel it, we will be able to utilize the main driving force of our lives correctly—our egoism, which distinguishes us from and lifts us above the animal level. Using it constructively, we will transform ourselves and rise above the human level in which we were born, and into the humane level of existence.

In the pictures: Dr. Patch Adams, MD