People Need People – A Poem by Benjamin Zephaniah

People Need People - A Poem by Benjamin Zephaniah, illustration by Phil Hankinson

People Need People - A Poem by Benjamin Zephaniah, illustration by Phil Hankinson

People need people,
To walk to
To talk to
To cry and rely on,
People will always need people.
To love and to miss
To hug and to kiss,
It’s useful to have other people.
To whom to moan
If you’re all alone,
It’s so hard to share
When no one is there.
There’s not much to do
When there’s no one but you.
People will always need people.

To please
To tease
To put you at ease,
People will always need people.
To make life appealing
And give life some meaning,
It’s useful to have other people.
It you need a change
To whom will you turn.
If you need a lesson
From whom will you learn.
If you need to play
You’ll know why I say
People will always need people.

As girlfriends
As boyfriends
From Bombay
To Ostend,
People will always need people-
To have friendly fights with
And share tasty bites with,
It’s useful to have other people.
People live in families
Gangs, posses and packs,
Its seems we need company
Before we relax,
So stop making enemies
And let’s face the facts,
People will always need people,
Yes
People will always need people.

–Benjamin Zephaniah

Poem by Benjamin Zephaniah, illustration by Phil Hankinson, direction and animation by Jonnie Lyle, production and development by Joanna Brown. Created by Goosepimple Productions.

Who Else Wants Long Lasting Happiness, to Use Any Dissatisfaction Optimally for the Best Change, and to Know How to Use What Most Affects Happiness?

Who Else Wants Long Lasting Happiness, to Use Any Dissatisfaction Optimally for the Best Change, and to Know How to Use What Most Affects Happiness?

Who Else Wants Long Lasting Happiness, to Use Any Dissatisfaction Optimally for the Best Change, and to Know How to Use What Most Affects Happiness?

What Does Lasting Happiness Depend On?

Neither Rising Prosperity nor Severe Misfortune Permanently Affect Happiness

  • Research implies that neither rising prosperity nor severe misfortune permanently affect happiness. After a period of adjustment, individuals return to their baseline levels of well-being, leaving humanity on a ‘‘hedonic treadmill’’ (Brickman & Campbell, 1981; Diener, Suh, Lucas, & Smith, 1999; Kahneman, Krueger, Schkade, Schwartz, & Stone, 2004). Similarly, as entire countries become richer, relative gains and losses neutralize each other across populations, bringing no overall increase in the happiness of their citizens (Easterlin, 1974; Kenny, 2004).

 

Neither Individual Efforts nor Social Policy Can Bring Lasting Changes in Happiness

  • Insofar as this set point is biologically determined, neither individual efforts nor social policy can bring lasting changes in happiness.

 

Happiness Depends on Popularly Accepted Social Norms

  • Another explanation for the apparent stability of the aggregate happiness of nations is social comparison theory (Easterlin, 1974, 2003). According to this account, happiness stays the same in the face of rising income because of a shift in reference. If happiness is shaped by one’s relative position in a society, then even if a nation’s overall economy grows, only those with above-average gains will experience rising happiness, and these increases will be offset by decreases among those with below-average gains.

–Ronald Inglehart, Roberto Foa, Christopher Peterson, and Christian Welzel,  “Development, Freedom, and Rising Happiness A Global Perspective” (1981–2007).

 

 

The Functions of Happiness and Dissatisfaction

Happiness Is Functional and Generally Leads to Success

  • Recent research indicates that happiness is functional and generally leads to success.

 

All Organisms are Motivated to Approach Things that Bring Pleasure and Avoid Pain

  • People consider happiness and pleasantness to be conceptually similar, and indeed, they usually experience these two emotions together (Schimmack, 2006). It simply feels good to be happy, and all organisms are motivated to approach things that bring pleasure and to avoid things that bring pain.

 

Happiness = The Most Important Human Attribute

  • In a recent large international survey led by Ed Diener and with over 10,000 respondents from 48 nations (Diener & Oishi, 2006), the average importance rating of happiness was the highest of the 12 possible attributes, with a mean of 8.03 on a 1 to 9 scale (compared with 7.54 for ‘‘success,’’ 7.39 for ‘‘intelligence/knowledge,’’ and 6.84 for ‘‘material wealth’’).

 

Being Happy = Better Job Performance, Higher Income, More Likely to Marry, Longer Life

  • On the basis of this theory, researchers have begun to systematically examine the consequences of happiness beyond simply feeling good. Lyubomirsky, King, and Diener (2005) conducted a meta-analysis of 225 papers on diverse life outcomes in the domains of work, love, and health and found that, in all three domains,
    • Happy people did better on average than did unhappy people. For instance, happy people receive higher job performance assessments from their supervisors (Cropanzano & Wright, 1999) and have more prestigious jobs (Roberts, Caspi,& Moffitt, 2003).
    • In addition, happy people earn higher incomes than do unhappy people, even many years after the initial assessment (Diener, Nickerson, Lucas, & Sandvik, 2002).
    • Happy people are more likely to get married than are their unhappy counterparts (Lucas, Clark, Georgellis, & Diener, 2003), and they are also more satisfied with their marriages (Ruvolo, 1998).
    • Psychologists even live longer if they express more positive emotions and humor in their autobiographies (Pressman, Cohen, & Kollnesher, 2006).

 

Dissatisfaction = Impetus to Make Change in Your Life

  • It is possible to find examples where unpleasant states motivate beneficial action. Consider the work domain. Job dissatisfaction can be thought of as a signal that the work environment does not fit one’s personality and skills. Thus, job dissatisfaction might motivate job change. In fact, a longitudinal study in Switzerland showed that work dissatisfaction predicted job turnover (Semmer, Tschan, Elfering, Kalin, & Grebner, in press) and that those who changed jobs experienced a subsequent increase in job satisfaction in their new job. This study suggests that individuals who are dissatisfied but make efforts to change their life circumstances can improve their satisfaction. Conversely, individuals who consistently experience positive affect and never experience dissatisfaction might be less likely to make a change to improve their life circumstances. Thus, a very high level of satisfaction might lead individuals to fail to attain their full potential.
  • Although positive moods induced in the laboratory are generally associated with more creativity and better cognitive performance (see Fredrickson, 2001; Isen, 1999, for review), in some circumstances, positive moods are associated with inferior cognitive performance. For instance, in a syllogism task, participants in a positive mood condition performed significantly worse than did participants in the control condition (Melton, 1995). Participants in a positive mood condition also performed more poorly at a moral reasoning task than did those in neutral or sad mood conditions (Zarinpoush, Cooper, & Moylan, 2000). Similarly, participants in a positive mood condition performed worse than did participants in control or negative mood conditions in an estimation of correlation task (Sinclair & Marks, 1995). Finally, participants in a positive mood condition were repeatedly shown to use stereotypes in a person-perception task more frequently than did those in a neutral mood condition (e.g., Bodenhausen, Kramer, & Susser, 1994).
  • Thus, these studies suggest that people who experience appropriate amounts of negative affect can adopt their cognitive strategy to the task at hand.
  • Moreover, the literature summarized above suggests that the relation between happiness and various life outcomes may be nonlinear; that is, happier is not always better.
  • Successful individuals are characterized as those who have loving relationships and contribute to society via their work and civic engagements.

–Shigehiro Oishi, Ed Diener and Richard E. Lucas, “The Optimum Level of Well-Being: Can People Be Too Happy?Perspectives on Psychological Science.

 

What Affects Happiness the Most?

 

The Factor Most Affecting Happiness = Social Connections

The factor most affecting happiness – social connections. In 2008, at the request of the British government and financed by the British Ministry of Science, (New Economic Foundation – NEF), in cooperation with the University of Cambridge, a comprehensive project was carried out, summarizing and comparing studies, identifying which factors affect the citizens’ happiness. The most influential factor is social connections. Out of the 5 recommendations suggested, 2 of them are directly connected to social relationships.

–Jody Aked, Nic Marks, Corrina Cordon, Sam Thompson, “Five Ways to Well-Being.” The New Economics Foundation.

 

Social Factors = More Important Factor for Happiness than Income

Happier countries tend to be richer countries. But more important for happiness than income are social factors like the strength of social support, the absence of corruption and the degree of personal freedom.

— “First World Happiness Report Launched at the United Nations.” The Earth Institute: Columbia University.

 

Problem: We Often Do Not Recognize the Importance of Social Connection as a Leading Factor for Happiness in Our Lives

Studies indicate that “social capital” (connections within and between social networks) is one of the biggest predictors for health, happiness, and longevity. The problem is that we often do not recognize the importance of social connection. Our culture values hard work, success, and wealth. We do not set aside enough time for social ties because we think security lies in material things rather than other people. The truth of the matter is that people have better survival rates for diseases when they have social support. If you don’t belong to a group and you join one now, you’ll cut your chance of dying in half for the next year.

–Cecile Andrews, “Social Ties are Good for Your Health.” Stanford University.

 

What Do You Think?

  • In a society with competitive individualistic values of individuals working to gain in wealth and prosperity against other individuals, how does this affect the level of happiness?
  • Why do you think happier people generally have better job performance, higher income, are more likely to marry, and live longer?
  • How can dissatisfaction with a certain life situation be used advantageously to make a change in your life? What kind of change would be the optimal one?
  • As more and more research finds that social connections are the most important factor affecting people’s happiness, what is something you can see in your life that correlates to this idea, that social connections are what affects happiness the most?

Please write your answers in the comments below!

Four Quotes from the Four Horsemen Documentary to Inspire Support, Love, Assistance & Cooperation

Four Horsemen - Feature Documentary

Four Horsemen - Feature Documentary

1. We Can Be the Best Source of Support, Love, Assistance & Cooperation

In any species, in almost any animal, there is always the potential for huge conflict, because with any species, all members of that species have the same needs. So they might fight each other for food, shelter, nest sites, territory, sexual partners, all those kinds of things. But human beings have always had the other possibility. We have the possibility to be the best source of support, love, assistance and cooperation, much more so than any other animal… and so other people can be the best or the worst. You can be my worst rival, or my best source of support.

Four Horsemen – Feature Documentary – Official Version.” 1:07:27 – 1:08:10

2. What Really Makes Us Happy?

What’s really suffered is human relationships, family life, the things that really matter to us. In the end, the only thing that makes human beings happy isn’t money, it’s very clear that you only get marginal gains from wealth. What really makes us happy is other people. It’s our relationships with other people that are really being damaged by the last thirty years. We trust them less; we have less interaction with them; we bond less than ever before; we marry less and marriages are under more threat than ever before, and all the associations that represent permanent unconditional human affection are being eroded or damaged. That’s the real legacy of the last thirty years. In some sense, we’ve got to recover and rehumanize our lives, otherwise not only will they be nasty, brutish and short, but they’ll be lonely.

Phillip Blond, Director of ResPublica in “Four Horsemen – Feature Documentary – Official Version.” 1:10:08 – 1:11:05

3. Human Beings are Alive because they Seek Attachment & Because they’re Propelled by Affection

The West is coming to the realization that its human project is failing. The West was so convinced that if you push people to achieve as individuals, that accumulated achievement of individuals would make for a successful society. And what the West is now beginning to realize is that the individual achievement, without incorporating the vulnerable community, is a myth. The idea was, “Make your own life. Be individually aspiring, and then you’ll be individually achieving, and then you’ll be individually prosperous, and then you’ll be individually happy.” You end up doing that in a glass jar, and the glass jar has a limited height, and it’s encapsulating, and in the end, you die of lack of oxygen. Human beings are alive because they seek attachment, and because they’re propelled by affection. So the isolated achieving individual, in the end, implodes.

Camila Batmanghelidjh, Founder of Kids Company in “Four Horsemen – Feature Documentary – Official Version.”  1:11:06 – 1:12:21

4. Purpose in Life has to be Outside Yourself

In order to find a purpose in life, it has to be outside yourself. It matters not how you construct it outside yourself, as long as it is a positive value added to society pursued. But it has to be outside yourself. It can’t be yourself. If you’re pursuing yourself, you’re pursuing the abyss, as Nietzsche said, you’re going to wind up in the abyss.

Four Horsemen – Feature Documentary – Official Version.”  1:12:21 – 1:12:45

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Mountain Spring Music – Family Tree [Music]

Mountain Spring Music

Mountain Spring Music describe themselves as,

… explorers searching for that new culture. On a mission from somewhere far away to remember what is going to be.”

On their newest single [available for free download], Family Tree, they sing of this new culture as a place where love is ubiquitous and humanity is united as one.

‘Family Tree’ Lyrics

I have seen the future and you’ll love me 

Like you love yourself

Not through ethics and not from guns because 

Love cannot be compelled

 

And, I have seen the future

And I have felt the light on my face

And unity is so natural

We’re one big family

And after all, we’re all brothers

If you trace back your family tree

 

History’s not repeating it just

It just rhymes so well

Empires rise and

Empires Fell

 

And, I have seen the future

And I have felt the light on my face

And unity is so natural

We’re one big family

And after all, we’re all brothers

If you trace back your family tree

 

I know you’ve heard about it

2012

This is your official invitation and I’m

I’m here to tell you that

 

I have seen the future

And I have felt the light on my face

And unity is so natural

We’re one big family

And after all, we’re all brothers

If you trace back your family tree

Nothing’s coincidental

Now it’s up to you and me

It’s a whole new world 

Where one and one is three

 

And unity is so natural

We’re one big family

And after all, we’re all brothers

If you trace back your family tree.”

Poem: Simple Truth

The truth is usually simple –
Why is it difficult to live?
If love is infinite to give,
Then why is unity unreal?
Why can’t we move beyond the words
And sharing on Facebook pages?
Why does this finite round world
Get packed in shopping square cages?
Hate, finger-pointing and spite
Rule over every good intention
Instead of change and self-correction,
We look for being “good” and right.
Is there sapience in us,
Or are we fear-driven primates?
We sing of peace, dream happy days,
While driving somebody bananas…
We’ve come a very lengthy way,
We’ve walked the round world TOGETHER,
We’ve played and learned from every game,
We outgrew our furs and feathers.
Now we are due to calculate
And draw some sapient conclusions:
To be recycled as primates
Or drop the “you ain’t me” illusion…

by Irene Rudnev

Connecting With Others: A Prescription For Overcoming Social, Cultural, And Economic Differences

Friends Greeting

We suspect — or at least we hope — that there are more and more things… where people have the opportunity to discover their commonality. These are things that can change the world, even if it’s by one person at a time.”

– Gregory Stebbins, President of Insight University

The Power Of Connection

In Stebbins’ article for the Huffington Post, “Connection: The Heart of Our Humanity,” he writes about the power of connection, how it has the ability to bridge social, cultural, and economic gaps:

I made friends and shared extremely touching experiences with them, [even though some] I barely talked to. I know not their personalities and everyday lives, but I know their core being. I also learned my core being; I saw myself in a way I have never seen before; full of love, laughter and beautiful qualities that I can appreciate in myself. Now I see myself as a person, someone to be loved and cared for, who deserves the respect I give everyone else. … Life … is an ebb and flow. [This program] taught me how to grow from the ebbs, remember the flows and to always continue to love myself, others and life.”

– A young woman, “who had just completed a 4-day program for teens from diverse social, cultural, and economic backgrounds.”

How Can You Know If You Are Placing Value In Connecting With Others?

To test out whether there is value for you in connecting with others… here’s a simple suggestion. Try it and see if you notice a difference.

Once a day, when you’re getting ready to text or email someone, call them and talk instead. Better yet, if it’s someone at work or someone close to where you are, go over and deliver your message in person. See if there’s a natural opening to make physical contact with them — a handshake or just a touch on the arm. See what it’s like to actually make a human connection.”

What Do You Think?

What are some ways to test your connection with others?

Image: “Friends Greeting” by Tobyotter on Flickr.

Our World Would Be Different If We Could See Inside Each Others Hearts

empathy

If you could stand in someone else’s shoes… Hear what they hear. See what they see. Feel what they feel. Would you treat them differently?”

– The Cleveland Clinic

What Do We Know About The Human Race?

Well, we know something very basic: we all share common desires for food, shelter, sex, family, honor, power, knowledge, and wealth.

And yet… we fundamentally lack the ability to, “Truly inhabit the shoes of another.”

But what if we could, somehow, “See life through another’s eyes?”

How would our world, and everyone’s world, change?

A World Where Each Sees & Feels What Others Feel

Imagine, for a moment, a world where:

  • Each sees themselves tied to everyone else.
  • A world where each realizes their common ambitions, together, seeing that the greatest profit can only be achieved through valuing the connection that they share.
  • A world where equality isn’t just a “word,” and hatred is something which everyone seeks to overcome, in order to arrive at that next, new, superior state.
  • Imagine a world of mutual responsibility.

What Do You Think?

How is a world, where everyone truly values what others see, think, and feel, formed?

Image: “Empathy” by Pierre Phaneuf on Flickr.

Midway: A Film About Man’s Interconnection With The Albatross

Do we have the courage to face the realities of our time, and allow ourselves to feel deeply enough that it transforms us, and our future? Come with me on a journey through the eye of beauty, across an ocean of grief and beyond.”

– Chris Jordan, filmmaker of Midway

The currently-in-production film, Midway, according to its site,

… explores the plight of Laysan albatross plagued by the ingestion of our plastic trash. Both elegy and warning, the film explores the interconnectedness of species, with the albatross on Midway as a mirror of our humanity.”

Midway is scheduled to premiere in late 2013. Here is the trailer:

MIDWAY : trailer : a film by Chris Jordan from Midway on Vimeo.

Dear Son, How Was Your Day At School?

My dear son,
Did you & your friends learn about this at school today?

Did you learn that all kids have feelings just like you and that it is destructive to individually  compete against one another because you learn through that how to use everyone and thing throughout your life for the sake of your own benefit?

Did you learn and discuss that a third of the world’s population is dying from starvation, and that they don’t even have a glass of water to drink?

Did you learn & see examples of how to respect others’  opinions that are different from your own even if you don’t always agree on the same topic?

Did you learn that each and every one of you was born with a special talent?

Did you learn you how to perceive yourself & others objectively?

Did you learn about collective group creativity together?

Did you learn that there is more than one correct answer to a question?

Did you learn that your amazing capabilities  cannot be defined by a percentage rating on a piece of paper?

Did you learn that each and everyone of you has something special that only you can contribute in order to complete a balanced society?

Did you & your friends learn about this at school today?

 

Love,
Mom